Cousins are confusing.
Posted on Tuesday August 06 2013 in lifeMum and I have been working on constructing a family tree for her side of the family for the last few weeks(when I say we, I mean her; I know sod all about the family, that's part of the point).
The historical society from her home town have started a Facebook page and happened to post a photo from 1922 of my great great grandfather, and when I told them this, they asked if I could send them a family tree of the line from him to me, since they like to record as much information vaguely related to the people of the town as possible. This started a massive mission on Mum's part to work out dates and children and so on(the great great grandfather in question had nine children, most of whom had multiple children of their own), and a mission on my part to find a website where we could create a family tree to save lots of tedious line-drawing. We've ended up using Family Echo, which is basic but easy to use and can do everything we need it to.
We sent that line to the society, who were very grateful, but Mum hasn't stopped. She's filled in all of her cousins and their children(and grandchildren!), which has made me try to find out what relation the children of her cousins are to me, since they're pretty much the closest living relatives I have in age(we'll ignore the actual first cousins I have on my Dad's side...long, long story). All Google has taught me is that cousins are confusing as hell. They could be my second cousins, or third, or second once removed, or something completely different. Any help on this front is appreciated!
It is also weird that there's now a generation below me on the tree, since one of Mum's cousins have two grandchildren born in the last couple of years. I mean, the cousin in question is 62 and her children were born in 1978 and 1982(compared to my mother, who is 54 and had me, her only child, in 1995, but then Mum is the youngest living cousin and was also one of the oldest mothers), so it does make sense, but it's still weird.
Anyway, this whole thing is mostly just interested in an academic sense. I like knowing more about my family, because as I said earlier, I know nothing. We don't live very close to any of them; when I was young, before Mum's parents died, we visited them and Mum's brother every Saturday. Sadly, her parents died when I was 4 and 6, and after that we gradually lost contact with her brother, who died when I was 13. Other than them, I don't really know anyone in the family. I've met them, a few times(not in about 4 years now, since Mum's 50th), but that's it. It's nice to know about my roots, but I still don't really have much of a real family except for my parents. Which I'm fine with(after all, I don't know any different).
In years to come when I finally get married and when children will presumably happen at some point, I'd like to think that they'll have a bit more family interaction than I have. Chris has two younger brothers, so the kids will have uncles(I've only met the youngest brother, who's lovely). But it's not something that bothers me. Contrary to popular belief, not having tons of extended(or even close) family around you all the time as a child does not do any harm.
(I have completely lost track of the point of this post, sorry, I'll stop)
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